I took the car to the dealer and they found a technical bulletin that addressed the issue. That bulletin number is PIC4095B.
What happens is that I have a thrid key fob that I bought for the car just in case one got lost (My ex would lose all sorts of things including keys). Interestingly enough I wound up using it as my main key. I never noticed that it wasn't one of the original two keys ( it looks just like the original key). Anyway, the "Options" is available only through the key fob; and the "Options" feature is not programmable on the extra key fob. So whenever I got into the car using the extra key fob the "Options" were not available. However, the original key fobs allow the "Options" to work.
Bottom line is: The "Options" button only works if you have the original key fobs. If you have an extra (third) key fob and use it to access the vehicle the "Options" will not be available (will not work).
So I guess this means that if you lose a key fob and replace it that the "Options" will not work? The technician did not know.
I suspect that the one would have to re-program the car to see the new key fob as one of the origninals. This seems like it should be able to be done
However, since I have three it is not an issue. Also this might explain why no one else has experienced this, maybe most people only have two key fobs.
Anyway, the OPTIONS are now available!